Valentine's Day Effect On Mental Health


 

                For a day all about love and lovers, Valentine’s Day can be a real slump for people who don’t have a significant other. While some may not see that as a big deal, for others, it can evoke negative feelings and emotions.  Many of us are surrounded by ideals of relationships we see on the TV, in advertising and on social media. This can be true whether we're in a relationship or not. That's why days which are supposed to celebrate love and togetherness can highlight how different, lonely or low we might feel. 

             Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about celebrating romance and love. Unfortunately, it can also be a tough day for many people. While others shower each other with gifts and flowers and book overpriced restaurants, some people spend the day grappling with mental issues. If you don’t feel like you live up to the romantic ideal of Valentine’s Day, February 14th can be an awful time of the year.




           Feelings of loneliness from Valentine’s Day can be especially hard on singles if they lost their significant other through a breakup, divorce or even death. Some people even loose what they never had. Social media exacerbates emotional stress, especially during Valentine's day, as individuals experience FOMO [ Fear Of Missing Out] due to constant influx of couples pictures and cute posts.

          Valentine's day can also be difficult when we compare our experiences with others. "What are you doing on Valentine's Day... or what did you get?" can be questions that evoke feelings of lacking or even loneliness whether we are in a relationship or not. Comparing yourself to others can negatively affect your self-esteem, mental health, and professional or personal well-being. Real life rarely looks like the perfectly staged "snapshot' on social media. 

Go your own way. Your Valentine’s Day should be as unique as you are and doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. If it makes you feel more comfortable, treat Valentine’s Day as any other day within the week.

Disconnect yourself from the ‘comparison trap’ – especially with other people’s or society’s expectations. This is particularly important if you're feeling pressurised about not being in a relationship for Valentine's Day.



 

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